Don has experience mediating couples from every walk of life. He has worked with couples getting divorce that have no money and just debt, couples in the middle who have some money and little debt, and also high asset couples, with complicated investment portfolios, trust agreements, businesses. He has also worked with city, state and federal workers that have very different, and sometimes multi-part pensions where understanding how the different pensions are constructed is essential to the equitable distribution of assets.
Don looks at things analytically like an attorney rather than a therapist. He believes couples who come to him just want to get through the process as quickly and inexpensively as possible and not get taken advantage of. Don wants the time they spend with him to flow and to do that he follows an outline he has developed that address all the issues.
Don Sinkov is an accredited mediator through the New York State Council of Divorce Mediation (NYSCDM), which is the highest standard in New York at this time. He is also accredited through the Family Divorce Mediation Council of Greater New York (FDMCGNY) and is currently on the Roster of Neutrals for the Westchester County Supreme Court.
It’s not about anyone winning like litigation; It’s about the couple walking away with a good agreement they’ve constructed for themselves in light of the information I’ve given them. Their decisions should be rooted in sound law and not based on emotions. My hope is that they will look at this agreement five years from now when they are no longer emotionally involved in it and appreciate the fact that we didn’t allow the agreement to be based on the emotions of the moment.
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Why Choose Divorce Mediation?
With the help of a divorce mediator, couples negotiate their own settlement and learn the techniques for resolving future differences. Divorce Mediation is for couples who want to retain control over the decisions that affect their lives and don’t want their children caught in the middle.
Divorce Mediation is not just for couples who already know how to cooperate. Divorce Mediators show people how to work together productively in spite of their anger.
What Are The Benefits?
Takes less time, so you can get move ahead with your life.
Allows you to control the decisions that affect your life.
Benefits children, and others close to you, by reducing conflict.
Avoids public disclosure of financial and personal matters because it is confidential.
What Points Are Decided?
Custody and Parenting Arrangements
Spousal Maintenance (Alimony)
Ways to Avoid Future Problems
How Does Divorce Mediation Work?
Mediators help couples separate their spousal role, which is ending, from their parental role, which is continuing. The mediators will help you focus on the relevant issues and help identify possible options. You will actively participate in the negotiations leading to reasonable solutions and a mutually satisfactory agreement that considers the needs of all family members.
The mediator is not an advocate for either party and does not make any decisions. Instead, the mediator helps you explore all options and their consequences.
How Long Does It Take And What Is The Cost?
The average length of time it takes to reach an agreement is 2-6 hours.
Sessions are scheduled for two hours each and are usually a week or two apart.
Divorce Mediation time is charged on an hourly basis. The cost for a mediated settlement, including the cost of attorney review, is usually less than one third of a traditionally litigated settlement because you, and not your lawyers, are doing the negotiating.
Will I need my own attorney?
After mediation has settled all issues. i.e. child support, equitable distribution of assets and debts, spousal maintenance etc. a Settlement Agreement and uncontested divorce papers can be prepared for you.
It is your choice to have the agreement reviewed by an attorney of your choosing, or waive review by an attorney before signing it. There is no legal requirement for attorney review before signing an Agreement. The agreement may then be used as the basis for an “uncontested divorce”.
How Do I Get Started?
At the first session, the mediation process is explained in detail.
Divorce Mediation is informal, but thorough. Don will guide you through the entire process, so don’t worry. You don’t have to be a great negotiator. He will make sure that everything that needs to be addressed is covered, and that nothing is left to chance.
Once the process is understood, the real work begins. With the help of the mediator, the couple starts by discussing their concerns. These can be financial concerns, such as division of marital assets and marital debt, or how bills will be paid; emotional concerns, including questions like, “What do I do now?”, or, “If my spouse moves out, how will I pay the mortgage?”, or, “What about insurance?”; or practical concerns, which encompass many areas, such as who will live in the marital residence or where the children will live. Step by step, decisions are made. During this process, care is taken to make sure that the needs of all family members are considered.
Once a tentative agreement has been reached, a formal agreement is drafted.
Post-divorce mediation can help you resolve issues that arise later, such as parenting and scheduling, financial matters and communication.
The reason post-divorce issues arise, is simply that people’s lives change. Your lives, your children’s lives, and living arrangements are some of the things that might change. Even though you covered all the issues relevant at the time of the divorce, there is no way to predict how future events might bring about the need for an adjustment in your agreement. As an example, the visitation agreement that you made initially might need amendment in light of a new job or a new relationship. As your children grow, their needs change, too, and what was appropriate for a six year old, might not work for a teenager.