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Relax and Go On Vacation—The Work Will Wait for You!

{2:42 minutes to read} Here I am, about to leave on a ten-day vacation abroad—something I haven’t done in a really long time. I’m experiencing some trepidation, but not just about taking a long flight. I tried to finish all the work I had, but that is nearly impossible since it comes in every day. Okay, I’m not complaining because I have too much work; it is just that this is the dilemma of a small business owner. One month, the phone doesn’t ring; no email; no text messages. You call yourself once every day or two, to make sure the phones work. The following month you’re inundated by calls and appointments. You are so busy, you don’t know what to do first. […]

Do Grandparents Have Rights in New York?

{2:18 minutes to read} The short answer is, “Yes. Grandparents have visitation rights in New York.” Every divorce agreement that I’ve seen specifically spells out that grandparents in New York have the right to see their grandchildren, and those rights won’t be denied. So that sounds great, and very legal, but how does that really work? Even though the parents are getting divorced, it’s important for kids to maintain relationships with parents, grandparents, and extended family. Settlement Agreements will often contain language about grandparents and extended family being able to see the children even after the death of one of the parents. Maintaining family relationships in the children’s lives is important. Extended family usually includes grandparents, uncles, aunts, etc; however, grandparents have a legal right to see their grandchildren. […]

Are You Ever Too Old to Get Divorced?

{2:42 minutes to read} A couple from Eastern Europe had been married about 65 years. This was their second marriage. They had a bunch of kids who were now in their 60s, and mom and dad decided it was time to get divorced. They had been unhappy for the last 25 years. Their attorney called me and said that he knew this was a little unusual because of their age, but he had spoken to both of them and they really needed to get it done. He said, “I was wondering who makes a career out of doing unusual mediations, and I thought of you.” […]

Thank God for Collaborative Lawyers!

{2:48 minutes to read} Collaborative law has been around since the 90s. It was initially marketed as something like mediation, but often clients call me and say they have been to collaborative lawyers; you know, mediators who are lawyers. That is totally wrong. The other day I had lunch with a principal in a law firm, and I said, “You practice family law, but I’m sure some of your clients would benefit from mediation. I’m thinking I could offer divorce mediation to your clients, and you and your law firm can do the legal paperwork and filings.” I further explained, “It would go like this: I’ll write a memorandum after the clients agree to terms. You write the Settlement Agreement and file the judgement in court.” […]

Why Don’t Lawyers Know What Mediators Do?

{3:06 minutes to read} Recently, I returned from a 3-day annual conference of the New York State Council of Divorce Mediation. The speaker was Eric Tepper. The training was about the new NYS Spousal Maintenance guidelines and advisory schedule. Eric had worked with Judge Sunshine in creating the guidelines and schedule. Shortly thereafter, I attended the Divorce Economic Institute training by MatLaw in Westchester County. MatLaw provides an ongoing review of case law each year that is usually attended by members of the Westchester Bar’s Family Law section. I have attended the MatLaw trainings every year for the past 13 years. I believe it is incredibly important to keep current with the seminal cases in equitable distribution and matters relating to divorce, business valuations, marital interest, etc. […]

Tell Me How You Communicate and I’ll Tell You How Old You Are!

{2:18 minutes to read} How do you communicate? Text? Email? Phone? Well, your method of communication might depend on your [...]

I’m Paying Child Support, Do I Still Have to Pay Half of the Mortgage, Too?

{3:06 minutes to read} I get asked this question at least once a week. The answer is, basic child support [...]

The Story of Bob and Joey

How the Government Provides a Disincentive to Work? {2:6 minutes to read} Bob and Joey have worked at the same [...]

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Parents of Special Needs Children Are Special, Too

{4:00 minutes to read} Recently, a client came in requesting my help in putting together a parenting plan. I asked [...]

There are No Experts Only Opinions

{3:18 minutes to read} I watched a YouTube video recently where a Norwegian scientist talked about global warming. He had [...]