I Don’t Need It In Writing – – My Spouse Will Do the Right Thing

{2:36 minutes to read} How many times have I had clients come in where one spouse, usually the husband, has [...]

I Thought He Was Going to Change!

{2:42 minutes to read} Imagine a couple married for over 20 years. They have been unhappy for a really long [...]

Should Mediators Draft Legal Agreements?

[Time to Read: 2 mins] For years, I've heard that some non-attorney mediators write their own settlement agreements. When I [...]

You’re a Mediator. Really?

I was recently emailed a 65-page Settlement Agreement by an unhappy couple. They said that the mediator who created the Agreement was horrible: He had produced this incredibly long Agreement, but they still had tons of unresolved issues. They explained that the odd part was that the husband and wife were in complete agreement on everything. However, a week or two after they had been in to modify the Agreement for the third time, the mediator called them and said, “I’ve discovered more issues. You have to come back.” They said, “We used the services of this mediator to create our Settlement Agreement.” I asked, “Do you mind telling me who it is?” […]

When a Mediator Levels the Playing Field, Is that Really Advocacy?

How often do mediation clients say: "We don't want anything to do with lawyers. We will not have lawyers review [...]

Why Do Judges Think Court is Where Families Belong?

Here in New York, when couples end up in court, the Judges do not have the ability to order cases [...]

What Lawyers Don’t Know

This blog is about some attorney responses to my blogs, which have been so bizarre, I had to write about [...]

How Much Should a Mediator Charge?

As the years go on, I have developed a better understanding of why some mediators ask for retainers, and why [...]

The Kid’s Living at College. Why Do I Have to Pay for Housing at Home?

A dollar-for-dollar credit against your child support obligation for room and board at college - we have all heard about [...]

Got Buyer’s Remorse?

How often have I heard, “I have a business but I don’t want to spend the money to get it [...]