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Boy, Am I Happy I’m Getting the House!

{3:54 minutes to read} A divorcing couple has decided how they are going to divide their assets. They really don’t need a mediator to mediate the terms because they have already decided, without knowing family law. Or how a judge might decide their case. Or what factors they need to consider. They have been thinking about their settlement for a while and like what they have. The husband and wife don’t really want to hear what I have to say. Although they’ve hired me as a mediator, they don’t want me to mediate. They just want me to write out the deal they have. […]

About Don Sinkov

Don Sinkov Your Divorce Mediator Westchester County, NY Putnam County, NY Phone: (914) 588-6258 eMail: Info@YourDivorceMediator.com

If You Can’t Bargain for Yourself, Maybe Mediation Isn’t for You!

{3:48 minutes to read} One of the elements of a successful mediation is the client’s ability to bargain in their own self interest. Often, I have one spouse who is more concerned about what is going to happen to their soon-to-be ex-spouse than they are about themselves. When I see that, I say, “Listen, your spouse is concerned about him or herself, and you’re concerned about them also, so there are two people concerned about them but who is expressing concern for you. For this mediation to be successful, you have to speak up for yourself and play a part in constructing what you both believe is a fair settlement.” […]

About Don Sinkov

Don Sinkov Your Divorce Mediator Westchester County, NY Putnam County, NY Phone: (914) 588-6258 eMail: Info@YourDivorceMediator.com

When We Left Your Office, Everything Fell Into Place

{3:00 minutes to read} It was a very complicated situation: The couple had been to lawyers and court. There were [...]

I’m Going to Mediation To “Get Over” on My Spouse!

{2:54 minutes to read} Couples with many assets can present challenges above and beyond in a divorce settlement. I met [...]

Why Must I Read My Divorce Agreement?

{2:24 minutes to read} How often have I received a phone call from divorced spouses asking questions about their settlement [...]

It’s Not What You Don’t Know, It’s What You Don’t Know You Don’t Know. – D. Rumsfeld

Was Donald Rumsfeld actually right? Maybe . . . A couple came to my office. The wife is an executive [...]

When a Mediator Levels the Playing Field, Is that Really Advocacy?

How often do mediation clients say: "We don't want anything to do with lawyers. We will not have lawyers review [...]

Why Do Judges Think Court is Where Families Belong?

Here in New York, when couples end up in court, the Judges do not have the ability to order cases [...]

Why Is a Divorce Mediator like a Car Mechanic?

A car mechanic: Has all the right tools; Has been trained; Keeps up with the latest changes and software for [...]

What Lawyers Don’t Know

This blog is about some attorney responses to my blogs, which have been so bizarre, I had to write about [...]