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Kids Need a Parent, Not a Playmate

{2:54 minutes to read} So what is a “Disney Dad,” you ask? A Disney Dad, in short, is a dad who spends his visitation time entertaining his child like a friend with no rules or boundaries. Visitation turns into a free-for-all party atmosphere. This may be because the father feels he has very little time with the child, so he wants the child’s memory of that time with dad to be a fun one. I get that, but that’s really not what a parent’s role is, is it? Here is what a client told me. When the child is with mom, there are strict rules. The child can’t have any sugar or keep late hours. The child is on a regular schedule, does her homework at a certain time, and eats meals together with her mother at the dining room table. Positive behaviors are encouraged, like being polite and following the rules. […]

Are You Ever Too Old to Get Divorced?

{2:42 minutes to read} A couple from Eastern Europe had been married about 65 years. This was their second marriage. They had a bunch of kids who were now in their 60s, and mom and dad decided it was time to get divorced. They had been unhappy for the last 25 years. Their attorney called me and said that he knew this was a little unusual because of their age, but he had spoken to both of them and they really needed to get it done. He said, “I was wondering who makes a career out of doing unusual mediations, and I thought of you.” […]

Tell Me How You Communicate and I’ll Tell You How Old You Are!

{2:18 minutes to read} How do you communicate? Text? Email? Phone? Well, your method of communication might depend on your [...]

There are No Experts Only Opinions

{3:18 minutes to read} I watched a YouTube video recently where a Norwegian scientist talked about global warming. He had [...]

Does Divorce Mediation Have a Place in Domestic Violence Cases?

{2:54 minutes to read} Divorce mediation in domestic violence cases? The judges and the court say, “Never!” But are they [...]

If I Ignore You, Will You Change Your Mind about Getting Divorced?

{2:48 minutes to read} One spouse is often the initiator when getting divorced or separated. The other’s attitude is, “Let’s [...]

The King of Mediation, Really?

{3:48 minutes to read}  After a difficult couple of weeks mediating with high conflict couples, divorce lawyers calling me and [...]

It’s Not What You Don’t Know, It’s What You Don’t Know You Don’t Know. – D. Rumsfeld

Was Donald Rumsfeld actually right? Maybe . . . A couple came to my office. The wife is an executive [...]

My Sign Says Don Sinkov, Mediator, Not Merlin the Magician

“The lawyers want more money. We’re broke. Let’s try mediation!” News Flash!! Mediation should be your first choice, not your [...]

Getting Married and Having Kids, Really?

I recently spoke with a matrimonial lawyer. She is 35 and has been going out with the same guy for [...]