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Kids Need a Parent, Not a Playmate

{2:54 minutes to read} So what is a “Disney Dad,” you ask? A Disney Dad, in short, is a dad who spends his visitation time entertaining his child like a friend with no rules or boundaries. Visitation turns into a free-for-all party atmosphere. This may be because the father feels he has very little time with the child, so he wants the child’s memory of that time with dad to be a fun one. I get that, but that’s really not what a parent’s role is, is it? Here is what a client told me. When the child is with mom, there are strict rules. The child can’t have any sugar or keep late hours. The child is on a regular schedule, does her homework at a certain time, and eats meals together with her mother at the dining room table. Positive behaviors are encouraged, like being polite and following the rules. […]

Do Grandparents Have Rights in New York?

{2:18 minutes to read} The short answer is, “Yes. Grandparents have visitation rights in New York.” Every divorce agreement that I’ve seen specifically spells out that grandparents in New York have the right to see their grandchildren, and those rights won’t be denied. So that sounds great, and very legal, but how does that really work? Even though the parents are getting divorced, it’s important for kids to maintain relationships with parents, grandparents, and extended family. Settlement Agreements will often contain language about grandparents and extended family being able to see the children even after the death of one of the parents. Maintaining family relationships in the children’s lives is important. Extended family usually includes grandparents, uncles, aunts, etc; however, grandparents have a legal right to see their grandchildren. […]

How to Provide Child Support for a Special Needs Child

{3:30 minutes to read} Remember my article on Parents of Special Needs Children are Special, Too? This is a follow-up [...]

When We Left Your Office, Everything Fell Into Place

{3:00 minutes to read} It was a very complicated situation: The couple had been to lawyers and court. There were [...]

I’m Paying Child Support, Do I Still Have to Pay Half of the Mortgage, Too?

{3:06 minutes to read} I get asked this question at least once a week. The answer is, basic child support [...]

Parents of Special Needs Children Are Special, Too

{4:00 minutes to read} Recently, a client came in requesting my help in putting together a parenting plan. I asked [...]

If I Ignore You, Will You Change Your Mind about Getting Divorced?

{2:48 minutes to read} One spouse is often the initiator when getting divorced or separated. The other’s attitude is, “Let’s [...]

Oh, No! I’ve Turned into My Parents!

[Time to Read: 2.9 mins] I'm sure you've heard or maybe even spoken the expression, "We've turned into our parents," [...]

Is Your Parenting Plan Effective?

As the years whirl on and I see more and more clients, I’m becoming acutely aware that mediation training needs [...]

We Got the Kids!

This is a prime example of what happens when you leave the decision-making about your children’s lives to a stranger [...]