Your-Divorce-Mediator-Don-Sinkov-Logo100

The Dilemma of the Custodial Parent

{3:06 minutes to read} In most joint custody cases, the child primarily lives with one parent. The other parent shares time with the child around a schedule set forth in their parenting plan. This joint custody arrangement, although very common in agreements, is not a slam dunk, and to the contrary, is more often not fair to the custodial parent. The majority of phone calls and/or emails I receive are usually complaints from the custodial parent, who, after several months, realizes that the child is with them almost all the time. The non-custodial parent might see the child one or two days a week, but sometimes that doesn’t happen. How many of you have heard this before? […]

Kids Need a Parent, Not a Playmate

{2:54 minutes to read} So what is a “Disney Dad,” you ask? A Disney Dad, in short, is a dad who spends his visitation time entertaining his child like a friend with no rules or boundaries. Visitation turns into a free-for-all party atmosphere. This may be because the father feels he has very little time with the child, so he wants the child’s memory of that time with dad to be a fun one. I get that, but that’s really not what a parent’s role is, is it? Here is what a client told me. When the child is with mom, there are strict rules. The child can’t have any sugar or keep late hours. The child is on a regular schedule, does her homework at a certain time, and eats meals together with her mother at the dining room table. Positive behaviors are encouraged, like being polite and following the rules. […]

Do Grandparents Have Rights in New York?

{2:18 minutes to read} The short answer is, “Yes. Grandparents have visitation rights in New York.” Every divorce agreement that I’ve seen specifically spells out that grandparents in New York have the right to see their grandchildren, and those rights won’t be denied. So that sounds great, and very legal, but how does that really work? Even though the parents are getting divorced, it’s important for kids to maintain relationships with parents, grandparents, and extended family. Settlement Agreements will often contain language about grandparents and extended family being able to see the children even after the death of one of the parents. Maintaining family relationships in the children’s lives is important. Extended family usually includes grandparents, uncles, aunts, etc; however, grandparents have a legal right to see their grandchildren. […]

How to Provide Child Support for a Special Needs Child

{3:30 minutes to read} Remember my article on Parents of Special Needs Children are Special, Too? This is a follow-up [...]

Parents of Special Needs Children Are Special, Too

{4:00 minutes to read} Recently, a client came in requesting my help in putting together a parenting plan. I asked [...]

Oh, No! I’ve Turned into My Parents!

[Time to Read: 2.9 mins] I'm sure you've heard or maybe even spoken the expression, "We've turned into our parents," [...]

Getting Married and Having Kids, Really?

I recently spoke with a matrimonial lawyer. She is 35 and has been going out with the same guy for [...]

Mediation and Couples Therapy: Can They Work Together?

When post-divorce couples come back to mediation, it is often to modify child support because of a change in the [...]

Why Do Judges Think Court is Where Families Belong?

Here in New York, when couples end up in court, the Judges do not have the ability to order cases [...]

The One Regret

My doctor is 70 years old and has a very successful and financially lucrative practice. The last time I spoke [...]