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The Dilemma of the Custodial Parent

{3:06 minutes to read} In most joint custody cases, the child primarily lives with one parent. The other parent shares time with the child around a schedule set forth in their parenting plan. This joint custody arrangement, although very common in agreements, is not a slam dunk, and to the contrary, is more often not fair to the custodial parent. The majority of phone calls and/or emails I receive are usually complaints from the custodial parent, who, after several months, realizes that the child is with them almost all the time. The non-custodial parent might see the child one or two days a week, but sometimes that doesn’t happen. How many of you have heard this before? […]

Kids Need a Parent, Not a Playmate

{2:54 minutes to read} So what is a “Disney Dad,” you ask? A Disney Dad, in short, is a dad who spends his visitation time entertaining his child like a friend with no rules or boundaries. Visitation turns into a free-for-all party atmosphere. This may be because the father feels he has very little time with the child, so he wants the child’s memory of that time with dad to be a fun one. I get that, but that’s really not what a parent’s role is, is it? Here is what a client told me. When the child is with mom, there are strict rules. The child can’t have any sugar or keep late hours. The child is on a regular schedule, does her homework at a certain time, and eats meals together with her mother at the dining room table. Positive behaviors are encouraged, like being polite and following the rules. […]

Do Grandparents Have Rights in New York?

{2:18 minutes to read} The short answer is, “Yes. Grandparents have visitation rights in New York.” Every divorce agreement that I’ve seen specifically spells out that grandparents in New York have the right to see their grandchildren, and those rights won’t be denied. So that sounds great, and very legal, but how does that really work? Even though the parents are getting divorced, it’s important for kids to maintain relationships with parents, grandparents, and extended family. Settlement Agreements will often contain language about grandparents and extended family being able to see the children even after the death of one of the parents. Maintaining family relationships in the children’s lives is important. Extended family usually includes grandparents, uncles, aunts, etc; however, grandparents have a legal right to see their grandchildren. […]

When We Left Your Office, Everything Fell Into Place

{3:00 minutes to read} It was a very complicated situation: The couple had been to lawyers and court. There were [...]

Is Child Support Just 25% for 2 Kids?

{2:03 minutes to read} I have 2 kids, so all I have to pay is 25% for child support, right? OK, so [...]

Categories: Child Support, Children & Divorce, Co-Parenting|

Why Parenting Plans Fail

Before you construct a parenting plan, don't think about how many hours you are entitled to see the kids. Think [...]

What’s This Nesting Thing All About?

In client meetings, the issue of custody is often a very difficult conversation. Even with joint custody, if the children [...]

Real Parent or Parteeeee Parent

Being a parent is one of the most difficult jobs you could ever have. What does it mean to be [...]

Real Parent or Paaarrr-teeeee Parent?

Which One are You? One of the issues that divorcing parents sometimes fail to recognize is the impact of the [...]