Seven Deadly Mistakes in Divorce!!
(and How to Avoid Them)
When you read these 7 common mistakes, you may think some are outrageous, some ridiculous, and some just plain common sense, but I have seen people make them time and again. Here is a good example:
One couple started writing their Settlement Agreement with me. They agreed to the terms and everything was going smoothly. They asked if it was OK to use joint credit cards until the Agreement is signed. I told them it was fine because until the Agreement is signed, it is best to maintain the “status quo”. Though the words “status quo” are Latin, they are well understood by most human beings – – except this husband, who immediately went out and bought a $35,000 Mustang Convertible. When it came time to split up the bank accounts, the wife, who knew nothing about this purchase, found a large amount of money missing from their joint account. When I asked the husband and wife why the balance was so small, the husband volunteered that he had bought a new car for cash. He felt this was OK because they were still married and if they weren’t getting a divorce, he would have done it anyway.
This would be Deadly Mistake #5: Starting to play fast and loose with the money. It will get you in trouble every time.
How can you avoid making decisions you may regret while getting separated/divorced?
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Everyone should be required to see a mediator first. It is good for the whole family.”
— Carolyn J.
While getting a divorce or legal separation,
don’t make mistakes you might regret for years to come.