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Mediation works as it fosters cooperation and problem solving instead of accusing the other spouse, which is the basis of a litigated divorce.

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Seven Deadly Mistakes in Divorce!!

Sinkov-7-deadly-mistakes-1-DPLIC_Popular These 7 Mistakes may sound outrageous, ridiculous, or just plain common sense, but people make […]

What’s This Nesting Thing All About?

Whats-This-Nesting-Thing-All-About? In client meetings, the issue of custody is often a very difficult conversation. Even with […]

Change the Agreement? Yes We Can!

As life is ever changing, sometimes events evolve in a couple’s life post-divorce that affect […]

Should Mediators Draft Legal Agreements?

For years, I’ve heard that some non-attorney mediators write their own settlement agreements. When […]

The Cost of a Legal Separation or Divorce

Hiring opposing counsel (attorneys) to “win” your divorce, no matter how you slice it, is […]

Dividing Net Equity Using the “Magic of Math”?

A while ago, I wrote a blog article about “The Magic of Math,” which had […]

Why Must I Read My Divorce Agreement?

How often have I received a phone call from divorced spouses asking questions about their […]

If I Ignore You, Will You Change Your Mind about Getting Divorced?

One spouse is often the initiator when getting divorced or separated. The other’s attitude is, “Let’s […]

My Income Has Changed. Does the Child Support Change? !

What happens if you already have an Agreement in place, where support levels were based […]

Frequently Asked Questions

A couple choosing to Mediate their separation and/or divorce, are opting for a highly cost […]

About Divorce Mediation

Separation and divorce are among the most painful and disruptive events an individual or family […]

Mediation: Last Resort, or First Choice?

A couple had been in litigation for a little over 6 months and were running […]

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I’ve been a divorce lawyer for over twenty years. When my wife and I decided to divorce, we did not want litigation to use up the money we had saved for the children’s college education. We chose mediation with Don Sinkov because of his reputation as a consummate professional. The entire divorce process took two months and although we are divorced, my ex wife and I can still effectively parent our children together because we chose not to fight but to mediate. Don was amazingly effective in bringing us the closure we needed. We both thank you very much.

S.G. Manhattan

Recent Blog Articles

If You Can’t Bargain for Yourself, Maybe Mediation Isn’t for You!

{3:48 minutes to read} One of the elements of a successful mediation is the client’s ability to bargain in their own self interest. Often, I have one spouse who is more concerned about what is going to happen to their soon-to-be ex-spouse than they are about themselves. When I see that, I say, “Listen, your spouse is concerned about him or herself, and you’re concerned about them also, so there are two people concerned about them but who is expressing concern for you. For this mediation to be successful, you have to speak up for yourself and play a part in constructing what you both believe is a fair settlement.” […]

Kids Need a Parent, Not a Playmate

{2:54 minutes to read} So what is a “Disney Dad,” you ask? A Disney Dad, in short, is a dad who spends his visitation time entertaining his child like a friend with no rules or boundaries. Visitation turns into a free-for-all party atmosphere. This may be because the father feels he has very little time with the child, so he wants the child’s memory of that time with dad to be a fun one. I get that, but that’s really not what a parent’s role is, is it? Here is what a client told me. When the child is with mom, there are strict rules. The child can’t have any sugar or keep late hours. The child is on a regular schedule, does her homework at a certain time, and eats meals together with her mother at the dining room table. Positive behaviors are encouraged, like being polite and following the rules. […]

Relax and Go On Vacation—The Work Will Wait for You!

{2:42 minutes to read} Here I am, about to leave on a ten-day vacation abroad—something I haven’t done in a really long time. I’m experiencing some trepidation, but not just about taking a long flight. I tried to finish all the work I had, but that is nearly impossible since it comes in every day. Okay, I’m not complaining because I have too much work; it is just that this is the dilemma of a small business owner. One month, the phone doesn’t ring; no email; no text messages. You call yourself once every day or two, to make sure the phones work. The following month you’re inundated by calls and appointments. You are so busy, you don’t know what to do first. […]